Comments on My Life in the Slow Lane: Affection

Families can be such a pain eh?! I think a bit of...

2008-12-15T03:27:22.963+11:00

Families can be such a pain eh?! I think a bit of open discussion is on the cards here - give her a chance to explain though, without interruptions... even if you really want to!

Personally I say keep on showing NORMAL couple beh...

2008-12-13T07:33:43.040+11:00

Personally I say keep on showing NORMAL couple behavior in front of her.

It is NORMAL behavior to hold your boyfriend / girlfriends hands and kiss them.

keep being normal dont bend to suit because then you are telling her that waht you do is not normal

This is a hard one Dan.I think it would be good to...

2008-12-10T07:00:24.028+11:00

This is a hard one Dan.
I think it would be good to have this same conversation with her if you can, acknowledging that you both have rights and showing a desire to work through it.
In many ways your relationship with Janek is a concrete sign of your sexuality. Up until now, it was all theory for her, something that she hoped she could change. This shows her that this is real.
It is hard to expect someone with as strong views as her to change overnight, but slowly, with gentle exposure to what being gay means to you, she MAY change over time.
Like any minority, sometimes we have to be the educators and edifiers of the world.

Good luck!

Well that is certainly a bit of a doozy. I'd love ...

2008-12-10T02:40:24.522+11:00

Well that is certainly a bit of a doozy. I'd love to just tell her to suck it up, but in a good deal of social situations PDAs make me rather uncomfy too.
It isn't that I don't like other people being affectionate, it is just that I'm not very touchy feely and when other people are sharing an intimate moment in a group situation I tend to feel like I'm intruding. Where do I look? What do I say when it is completed? Is it appropriate to carry on the conversation while they are making goo-goo eyes or should I wait until I have their attention again?

Random couples in public don't bother me at all, its just the group thing. Hand-holding and casual touch doesn't bother me either, but when a couple in a group situation start doing couply things (I'd love to define it further, but I think the best I can do is "intimate moments"), I do get very uncomfortable.

So with that, I am torn. Perhaps get her to define what part of it makes her uncomfortable. Is it the gay thing? Is it the unmarried thing? Maybe the intrusion on intimacy thing? Once you know that it'd be easier to decide on a course of action. Stopping all affection is an unworkable request though, because even if Janek wasn't your man, you'd still be affectionate to him as a friend and human being. That is just who you are.

In the meantime, try and cut down on your coffee table fucking ;)